This week’s Wicked Wednesday prompt is Promotion. I’m not a big fan of this type of self-selling, but will give it a go. First, because it’s important to know your value and second, if you don’t promote yourself, who will?
I’m also linking to Monochromerotic because I like this picture of my assets.
Life of a Kinky Wife is just a baby compared to most of the amazing blogs I follow. I have many aspirations for it, but life has a funny way of getting in the way while I’m making plans. Late last fall, I took a bit of a personal hit and then another bigger one early in February and can honestly say; I haven’t bounced back yet. I plan to write about that soon and post it to Mindful Moments for this month’s prompt: Let it go.
Where to Find Life of a Kinky Wife
Many have found my blog through memes hosted by others. Some I partake in regularly (when I’m posting regularly) are 4 Thoughts, Wicked Wednesday, Monochromerotic, Erotic Journal Challenge, and Erotic Fiction Deluxe. These are all worth a read and I highly recommend you do so. Others, like Tell Me About and Tie Me Up Tuesday, have been on a hiatus for a while, but are also must reads for those interested. Unfortunately, I’ve left many blogging memes behind me because of conflicts of interest. Sad, but a lesson well learned.
Social Media
As always, you can find me on Twitter. My following has grown tremendously in the last few months, and I passed the 1000 mark without even noticing. It seemed odd to make a big to-do about it when I was well past the number, but I’m watching it now and have some fun plans for when I reach 1500. What are they, you ask? Stick around to find out!
All my blog posts get posted on Facebook and Tumblr as well, but I catch quite a bit of slack on those platforms. Apparently, my breasts are not acceptable there, and so I have to be careful to edit my images. In the past I engaged often with my readers, but neither platform is geared towards sex positivity, so I have let them slide, even though I maintain the accounts.
Instagram highlights my favourite images. While I usually share them on LOAKW first, all my images are filtered or edited a second time on Instagram, so they are never the same twice, nor do I always post all images to both. My following has grown a lot, which is lovely for my ego. I sometimes post images to Instagram that you won’t catch on my blog, so be sure to follow so you never miss a thing.
LOAKW is now on Fetlife. I’ve read that some bloggers have seen an increase of 800% in views, simply by advertising or posting on FetLife. Since they have such a large following, and are tailored to the kink world, it seems silly not to.
Services
This year, I’ve expanded my blog to include reviews and affiliate marketing. While it doesn’t offer a lot of cash, it is something and to make a bit of money is a nice pat on the back. I am always open for more company affiliations and hope to expand my services to editing and beta reading in the future.
LOAKW welcomes guest posts as well, and I have had a few requests, but have clarified that the post must be in line with my blog brand. I can’t just post whatever, as much as I want to help other inspiring writers get their names out there. I think this is a #sorrynotsorry moment.
My Projects
Mmm Mondays
In January I really stepped out of my comfort zone and created Mmm Mondays, a weekly blogging meme about all things that make you say Mmm. I’ve left it open to the writer’s or photographer’s imagination and have only a short list of rules. So far, it’s been a brilliant success and I’m delighted and thankful that so many have embraced it and taken the time to take part.
Originally, I was asking for images of participants, but that has been pushed aside. I still hope that others send me their images, though. I’d really love to highlight sex workers of all sorts. If you know anyone who wants to get their name out there, please let me know. As you all know, I think sharing is caring.
Recently I’ve added a weekly recipe to Mmm Mondays, where I take something ordinary and name it something sexy. The first was Week 28 with slut brownies. If you’ve never tried them, you should. If you have any sexy food suggestions, please send them my way.
I’m hoping to add a toy of the week in the near future. Currently, I’m just working out the kinks (or working them in, rather….) and getting the logistics sorted.
You can follow Mmm Mondays by clicking here, or on twitter.
Tantalizing Tales
Also in January, May More asked me if I would be interested in being a house writer for her Medium publication Tantalizing Tales. While I was reluctant at first, May was persuasive and since she’s such an amazing mentor, I knew it would be beneficial to accept.
And then a few months ago, she asked if I would be like to assist herself, Posy Churchgate, and Liz Black with editing the ever-expanding weekly entries, and again, I knew it was an amazing opportunity. I’ve found I really enjoy helping others get their work into tip top shape, and especially enjoy helping new writers find their voice. It’s a great tool as a writer to edit others and the task has been invaluable to my work, which I’m thankful for, even if I critique myself just a little bit more now.
Medium
In order to work with May, I needed to create a Medium account and I’m happy I did. This platform allows me to make a few dollars off my writing each month, which is a really nice way of seeing something come from endless hours of effort. My following quickly grew, thanks to Tantalizing Tales, and I have gotten some really great feedback from it.
I haven’t branched out to other publications yet but am hoping to do so ASAP!
If you’re an inspiring writer, but don’t want the hustle and bustle of a blog (or even if you already have one), I highly recommend medium. If you sign up through this link, I’ll make a few extra dollars this month (hint, hint). Just want some extra reading? You can sign up here.
Photography
While not technically a blogging project, I am building a Boudoir and Kink photography side business. Without an exhausting drive, boudoir photography is scarce where I live, and there is only one advertised kink photographer in my entire province (a region comprising 600 000 + sq km’s). I was once told that to create a successful business; Find a need and fill it, and so that is what I want to do. My first booking is planned in a few weeks time and I am super excited to see how it all turns out.
I hope to share some of that with you here on LOAKW, but if not, I’m sure it will be great fuel for my fiction writing fire. Website for that to come soon!
Writing
I haven’t been posting as much as I did previously due to numerous happenings. A huge portion is the insidious voice inside my head that critiques every sentence I write, and every image I take (among other things). I’m on the path to silencing it, but like all things, it takes time.
But I have been writing, even if you haven’t gotten to read it. This year I took a huge jump and signed up for a Fiction Marathon hosted by Blogable. The experience has been a huge eye opener. Part of me feels that I never should have joined (this may be the insidious voice, but it’s hard to be sure), but I have gotten through 5 rounds and entered the semi-finals in second place (not to shabby for less than two years of writing experience in a professional capacity). I’ll find out this Saturday whether I go to the last round. Wish me luck!
I’ve decided to take one entry and expand the story line into a full-length book. It’s not the book I originally started, and I may not complete it for a while, but I think it will be a rewarding experience. Watch for more about that!
Onwards and Upwards
Not everything on LOAKW has gone to plan but looking back, my blog has come quite far in 19 months, and hopefully will only move forward. I’m open to suggestions from readers about what they would like to see, or read about, and can always be reached at Lifeofakinkywife@gmail.com. I look forward to hearing from you and appreciate each and every like, share or comment.
Promotion shouldn’t always be self-serving, and I like to promote those who’ve aided in my journey, whether directly or as a spectator. Blogs are a great inspiration, and those who have inspired me most are:
Plus many more who are no longer blogging 🙁
Check them out. You won’t regret it.
You can find more of MrsK’s assets in photography.
Check out my ko-fi page for another promotion I offer.
You have achieved so much, it’s absolutely fantastic! Your images are always stunning so I think the kink photography side business is a brilliant idea. Well done you 🙂
Excellent post outlining all your projects and plans. I enjoy your platforms. I hear so much about Medium, I need to check that out. Good for you for trying things. I think the photos you post are amazing, I hope your photography venture works out. There are times I wish we had a good photographer… I enjoy your writing. While I enjoy porn, I have always preferred stories. It’s been awhile, but my favorite site used to be Literotica. Not sure it’s still around. Keep up the great work!
Excellent post outlining all your projects and plans. I enjoy your platforms. I hear so much about Medium, I need to check that out. Good for you for trying things. I think the photos you post are amazing, I hope your photography venture works out. There are times I wish we had a good photographer… I enjoy your writing. While I enjoy porn, I have always preferred stories. It’s been awhile, but my favorite site used to be Literotica. Not sure it’s still around. Keep up the great work!
This is a fabulous promotion post, MrsK, and I am so happy you took the jump and did it. I know how hard self-promotion is. I am just as bad at it, but forced myself to do so. Like you, I have finally started posting on Medium – I’ve had my account for years – and if I only get my annual subscription out of it, I’m happy. As for Fetlife, unfortunately when I shared my posts there, it didn’t have the impact you described above. Last, but certainly not least, thank you for mentioning my blog. I love, love, love reading your words, whether fiction, fact or about your feelings. Always keep writing 🙂
~ Marie xox
It is all a Curriculum. Very complete and growing. I hope to be able to follow his writings and his images for many more years. I love how good fishnet tights look on her.
You have so much to be proud of in your writing and your pictures (this one you’ve included here too), I’m such a fan and yes you deserve to show of your assets 😊
Fab post and that is a great idea re photography.
You are a wonderful writer and a great editor too, as you are able to see the différance between someone’s writing style and structurally clumsy sentences…
Thanks for my mentions – I appreciate them xx
I have so enjoyed following you. You do great writing, and the photos are marvelous. Will check out the links you have posted, and PLEASE keep writing!