Deck the Halls and Silent Subs

Kinky Advent 2020 – Day 19

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Day 19 of Kinky Advent brought us a twist on Decking the Halls, where we did some festive bondage. And some silver bells remind us how to be silent, day and night.

Decorate Yourself (or someone else)

The SafeworD/s Club prompted us to decorate ourselves, with a few suggestions being with plugs, clamps, etc. Mister K and I have neglected our love of rope for too many weeks now and thought today was a good day to incorporate some.

A change in materials means the safety needs to be considered in a different light (haha). We choose to use battery operated lights. In the event we needed to cut them, we didn’t risk electrocution, or blowing a breaker.

Christmas offers many materials not usually seen in bondage. It’s nice to be able to be creative with it, but also to see how other items hold up to being used. Garland as a blindfold worked well, but it tickles so keeping your eyes open is not advised.

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Seen But Not Heard

The Submissive Guide tasked us with wearing bells to remind us to be seen and not heard. The idea was to wear bells and make as little noise as possible as we completed our daily tasks. Not as simple as it sounds. I used some ribbon and bells left over from Day 10 and came up with cute little anklets.

I am not naturally a quiet person and I talk quite a lot. I’m a blogger, are you surprised? The only time I’m truly completely silent, is at night, when I’m sleeping. But even then, I talk, moan and mumble…

There’s this idea in some dynamics that submissive’s should be as silent as possible. I understand the theology behind the idea. We are supposed to appear submissive in our interaction with our Dom’s, Master’s and owners. And I’d like to think that in the moments when it matters, we are. But being quiet all the time seems like more than necessary.

I have sat quietly many times in the past 5 years of being 24/7, so I didn’t truly test this today, but I did enjoy wearing bells. Mister K has often instructed me to shush or to only speak when spoken to. But sometimes it’s more than difficult. Using bells was a good reminder to be light on my feet. After a few hours it did become easier.

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Do you hear what I hear?

Just like in Day 2, the idea of slave bells resonated with me. The slave mindset interests and intrigues me, but I’ve not looked thoroughly into why. I think it has something to do with the control factor being changed to such an extreme. I also happen to think slave bells look incredibly sexy. The jingle they create also stirs something inside me. Obviously, this is something I need to investigate further.

Personally, I don’t think there is anything wrong with a submissive who isn’t quiet all the time. Like we discussed yesterday, when you become real, you’re accepted no matter what. Mister K likes that we talk and converse, that he knows where I am, based on my mutterings and clumsiness. My noisiness is one of many personality traits that makes me, well, me.

Only 5 days to go in Kinky Advent 2020. Tomorrow brings us timed orgasms and using scent to reminisce. Sounds delicious.

Until then, stay knotty!

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