What is Honour Bondage?

I didn’t know that honour bondage had a name until this prompt. I just thought it was called doing as you’re told. With that being said, honor bondage is a part of my and Mister K’s dynamic, and it’s probably a part of most dynamics. Holding your legs up, bending at the waist, holding your ankles for inspection, or keeping your hands firmly over your head are all forms of honour bondage. It is just doing what you’re told, or maybe a better term is, what is requested of you.

It has its Uses

Holding a position without being bound can be a little more difficult than using rope or cuffs, but it can also be more convenient. When you don’t have access to rope, or other forms of bondage equipment, holding a pose manually can help a scene move fluidly through each step. Sometimes a scene starts spontaneously, say during an afternoon drive or a walk in the park. While I don’t think sexual acts should be acted out in an overtly public way, honour bondage can be as simple as sitting in a specific position, not speaking without permission or holding your hands behind your back. It allows a D-type to assert control and dominance over an s-type. And isn’t that kind of what we love about D/s to start with?

But sometimes honour bondage is not part of a scene. Maybe it’s part of a ritual, like kneeling for a specified amount of time or staying in position for a maintenance spanking. Maybe you use honour bondage for punishment, such as holding a coin against the wall with your nose. Honour bondage is just that, a way for an s-type (bottom) to show honour to a D-type (top) by holding position, a pose or stance with nothing but the desire to please.  It shows recognition of roles in the dynamic and regard for a partner, and also feels great to be told: “you’re such a good girl.” (or boy, or toy or slut, or whatever you like to be called).

What is it about?

Honour bondage is all about respect. If respect is not a part of a dynamic, it’s hard for a submissive to fully trust someone and do exactly as they are asked. But on the other side of that is the ability to walk away from a scene if a bottom feels the need. This form of bondage is a good way for beginners to learn about each other and to maybe investigate whether or not hard bondage is something they are willing to explore.

For myself, I like the psychological challenge of honour bondage. I enjoy knowing that I am doing something that will please Mister K. He, in return, enjoys knowing that I will follow his requests. I think that honour bondage gives us a way to display our dynamic without the ability for others to see it, as well as allowing us to be immersed in our roles. With that, we also love a good rope scene, using restraints and gags, and won’t be giving them up any time soon.

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