5 Kinky Alternatives when you’re on your Period

So, this is the week that aunt flow came to visit. She never stays long. I’m pretty fortunate to have a three day period, with little pain and discomfort. That doesn’t mean I don’t get a case of the cranks or just feel blah. No matter who you are, I’m sure having your period doesn’t make you feel the best or like having a sexual encounter. Unfortunately, if you’re anything like me, you crave intimacy at this time, maybe more so than any other.

In my twenty plus years of being a fertile woman, I have had many lovers who were like “a little blood never stopped the war”, or “blood washes off”. And they are right, it’s no big deal, but it also doesn’t look very sexy (unless that’s your fetish, in which case I’d love to hear about it), it doesn’t sound very sexy with all that excess moisture and sometimes it takes away from the sensations due to the extreme amount of lubrication.

Being in a D/s dynamic, I don’t always have the ability to say no, I’m not up to playing today. Mister K sets the time, the place and so on. So, when he says, “let’s play”, we play. Mister K isn’t turned off by menstrual blood. He’ll still fuck me, but only on certain days. He doesn’t enjoy a heavy flow because it feels like “fucking a waterbed.” His words not mine. So, what do we do instead of sex on a red towel?

Mutual masturbation

Mister K and I have a running competition going on who can come the fastest. Yep, that’s right. We sit together on our bed and we masturbate in front of each other, racing to see who finishes first. The winner gets bragging rights, the loser cleans the mess 😊 Sometimes we get to use toys, sometimes only our hands. The one thing I like most about this activity is that we get to learn how the other likes to be touched. And it’s sexy as hell to watch your partner get themselves off on watching you get yourself off.

Mammary Intercourse or French Fuck

I don’t have very big breasts. They are a perfect handful for Mister K and that’s good enough for me. With the right position, just enough lube and using my hands to hold my tits together, Mister K is easily able to slide his cock through. He’ll tell me how much of a whore I am for letting him fuck my tits, and do I ever love his dirty talk. My favorite part of this is that I get Mister K’s come all over my boobs, chest and face. Sometimes Mister K has me wear his come with pride, until it’s dry and painful when being washed off. I love the reminder of his dominance and his release.

Cock sucking

I love having Mister K’s cock in my mouth. So much so that Mister K will get me to beg him for it before he’ll even let me take him between my lips. He knows I will do almost anything to have just a taste. Once upon a time Mister K was so gentle with me, that I had to tell him,” I want you to fuck my face!” He’s not gentle anymore and I thoroughly do get a good face fucking. I’m sure it’s more enjoyable for him as well. Who like going slow and steady when you’re close to climax? Not me, that’s for sure! Mister K will usually come in my mouth, but occasionally he’ll come on my face and in my hair. While come is a bitch to get out of hair, having him come on my face is amazing! The best part? He’ll feed me his come off his fingers when he’s finished. Dinner and a movie!

You can read more about the benefits of cock sucking here.

Heavy Petting

Oh, how I love a good petting! Nothing awakens the senses better than having Mister K run his hands all over my body while kissing, nipping and sucking on various parts of my skin. Tingles! This is one activity where Mister K lets me reciprocate. As a submissive I don’t often grope Mister K with full abandon, but when making out, I get to run my hands all over his skin. Hold his cock in my hand. It’s empowering to hear his moans and to see him enjoying my touch as much as I enjoy his. Heavy petting is one of those things that as adults, we’ve kind of forgotten about. It was great fun when we were teenagers, but now, it seems juvenile. I fully support a good make out session. It’s great foreplay, even if it is a little vanilla. As a way to keep it interesting, Mister K has been known to let me have my hands free, but my legs bound spread eagle. I can still touch, but moving is a no-no.

Erotic Massage

If you’ve never experienced an erotic massage, I suggest you find a way to make it happen. It’s relaxing, it’s sensuous, it’s arousing for both giver and receiver. I am usually the massage giver and for me, that is okay. Like I mentioned I enjoy touching Mister K whenever I can. But when it comes to erotic massages, Mister K is always the giver and I am one very happy wife.

I recommend a good quality (preferably homemade) massage oil. You need something that can be safe if it gets inside the body in small amounts. Mister K always starts at the top and works his ways down, making me completely relaxed before moving onto my sensitive parts. While he may brush a nipple or my clit, he never fully touches them until he feels I’m ready. I thoroughly enjoy having my labia and nipples massaged, and I’m extremely aroused by the time Mister K is finished. I have come so close to climaxing that one lick to my sensitive clit was all it took to push me over.

There are some really great tutorials on erotic massage on Youtube. I found this one was great. If you’ve found others, or would like me to place your video here, please let me know. Sharing is caring 😊

There are many other activities that you could do, but these are some of my favorites. There was a time when getting my period would be a huge blow to my sex life, but with a little compromise and some negotiating, we’ve found that it doesn’t have to be sex or nothing. I’d love to hear from you, and to get some new ideas. Please let me know of any activities you and your partners use to keep it kinky, even when you feel less than sexy.

Happy kinking!

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