10 to Top 2021

The lovely Marie of Rebels Notes is celebrating her 500^th week hosting blogging meme Wicked Wednesday. To help her celebrate, she’s challenged us to do a roundup of our top ten posts. Life of a kinky Wife is just under two years old and because of that; I’ve changed it up a bit. Instead of highlighting my top 10 posts, which would be ten percent of this year’s posts in total, I will highlight 10 tops. Top post, top commented post, top viewed image, etc.

2021 was a shit year. I had hoped it would be better than 2020, and yet, it was tremendously terrible. Likely the worst of my almost 40 years. And not just the pandemic and the ever-changing world, but personally as well. I can honestly say that I survived (because I wasn’t really living) in a world of suffering for far too long and have only just started coming out of my funk and begun feeling like myself again. After a month off (spent reading and editing and volunteering), it feels good to be back.

But 2021 wasn’t all negative (and I refuse to be). Thanks to Marie, we have the opportunity to look back at what we’ve achieved. For myself, it wasn’t as much as I had hoped. But now that I’ve viewed the year as a whole, it was more than I thought. And that’s a positive right there.

New ways to Top 2021

Mmm Mondays

Medium

This year I also started posting my erotic and romantic fiction on Medium at the insistence of May More – whom has become a beloved friend (if you don’t know May, you should! Check out her site). It’s been a wonderful experience and not only allowed me to reach a larger audience, I’ve also been given the opportunity to edit others on Tantalizing Tales (alongside Posy Churchgate and Liz Black), which is a huge benefit for my own work. It’s great being part of such an amazing team. Thanks Ladies!

53 posts have made it to my Medium page. The top post for 2021 was Paying a Debt- Part 1.

Top Viewed Post

A Beginner’s Guide to Rope Play–written for Tell Me About

This post has had over 11000 views and also boasts the most link clicks (although they are links to other sites and not my own). It seems bondage is something that is searched for regularly, not only on LOAKW but also on the world wide web. I’ve had many readers reach out to ask for more info (so perhaps I should update this post soon) and even a rope company inquire out about advertising.

Just goes to show that with the proper SEO, even a first-time blogger can be found and recognized.

Top Commented Post

This top spot is a tie between two posts, heralding 24 comments each. MrsK Exposed–which was linked to 7 memes, and A Milf or not a Milf– written for Wicked Wednesday. Both posts were about something that was awkward for me to discuss, and yet, it received the most genuine responses. There’s a lesson somewhere in there, I’m sure of it…

LOAKW received 600 fewer comments in 2021 than in the year previous, and some of that is due to the lower number of bloggers I associate with (their decision, not mine). But mostly it’s likely because of posting less. Almost 100 posts less. This is my 101 post this year (on this site). I’ll finish 2021 with 102 as my New Year’s post will be out this Friday.

Top Liked Post

This top spot has two posts as well. MrsK Exposed (again for 7 memes) and Ropes not Roses– image post for Monochromerotic, with 17 likes each.

Likes (or stars) from other bloggers and WordPress account holders are so appreciated. I know some bloggers turn the function off, preferring comments, but this little button tells me you took the time to read my post. As an introvert, I appreciate the ability to say, I came, I saw, good work, without feeling obligated to write something (let’s be honest, sometimes there’s nothing to say) and have it come across as not genuine.

Top Commenter

It’s no surprise to me that the person who comments the most on my blog is Marie Rebel. She’s so supportive and knowledgeable and each time she leaves me even a single word, I feel honored. Thanks Marie!

Top Referrer

Like most blogs, most of my views come from organic searches and Twitter (new to 2021. Last year, I relied heavily on shares and memes to get my numbers up). My top referred post was 5 things I learned from a Femdom, written for No True Way and referred via Collaredmichael.com, which he graciously shared on his site, driving a lot of traffic my way. If you’re reading this, Michael, thank you, and I miss you. Come back soon!

As for top page referrer, that, of course, goes to Wicked Wednesday- where in 2020, 14 posts were highlighted. I’m unsure about 2021’s numbers, but I’m sure Marie will have them ready for us soon!

Top Viewed Image

Instagram

Top Searched Term

If you’ve ever wondered if the search function on websites gets used, they do! When I searched for my top searched term, it was:

Renitent wife handcuffed.

And I laughed and laughed. The dictionary says Renitent means: to resist pressure, constraint, or compulsion. So not me, but whatever gets you to my site…. Since we’re looking at positives, this also may give me an idea for a post, or two!

Top Viewing Country

The US reads LOAKW more than any other country (by 41000 views). This shocked me. Not only because Life of a Kinky Wife hails from Canada, but because most of the people I chat with are in the UK or the Netherlands. Perhaps I’ve been neglecting including my American friends, simply because I didn’t know you were visiting (except for you- Mike and Samantha– thanks for all your support!). Don’t be shy, Southern Neighbors, say hello. I don’t bite (unless you ask me to).

Top Challenge of 2021

This year I talked myself into joining the first **Blogable Fiction Marathon – hosted by May More and Marie Rebel. It was an arduous challenge and unfortunately halfway through, my mental health started to deteriorate (because of other factors, not the marathon), which made it difficult to keep my head in the game. I finished fifth (out of 37), but I’m proud that I stayed and maintained, even though I did almost throw in the towel. The experience has certainly made me a better writer (I hope) and that’s really all that counts. After some time off, I hope to put those skills to good use. Maybe I’ll even try again next year. Who knows?

So, there’s my 10 to top 2021. It may not have been the year we wanted, but maybe it was exactly what we needed (not likely, but let’s remain positive).

Thanks for the walk down memory lane. See you all next year!

*Some mentions don’t have links. There is a reason for that. If you are unsure of that reason and really want to know, please ask (I hold no responsibility for questions answered).

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