A Sack Full of Goodies and a Rabbits Tale

Kinky Advent 2020 – Day 18

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Day 18 of Kinky Advent brought us a surprise from Santa’s sack and a story about becoming real. I was surprised by Mister K’s kinky choice, yet delighted. After some thinking I discovered that becoming real can be an arduous journey, one not for the faint of heart.

What’s in Santa’s Sack?

Day 18 from the SafeworD/s Club tasked us with having a number of toys hidden and letting someone else choose one to use on us. I really love the concept behind this and thought an array of choices was appropriate. Choosing an assortment of toys is much easier than it once was, the hardest part now is choosing between an actual sex toy or other items that could be used as sex toys. Or sex accessories, like rope and impact tools. In the end I settled on this. Plenty of options.

Mister K chose his toy much faster than I anticipated and then proceeded to grab some rope. I guess I should have added it to Santa’s sack after all.

I was pleasantly surprised with Mister K’s choice. Though we’ve had the wartenberg wheel for a while, today was the first time we’ve used it. A worthy cause, if you ask me.

Becoming Real

The Submissive Guide advent prompted us with a verse from the Velveteen Rabbit. If you’re unfamiliar with the story, it tells the tale of a stuffed rabbit who desires to “become real”. The quote used is at the end. I won’t repeat the whole verse, but Rabbit asks if becoming real happens all at once and the reply is:

It doesn’t happen all at once,” said the skin horse. “You become. It takes a long time. That’s why it doesn’t happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don’t matter at all, because once you are Real you can’t be ugly, except to people who don’t understand.

Margery Williams

There was time when I wondered if I would ever be real; living the life I knew I wanted and craved. These words really resonate with me. I think it’s a good message. Resiliency, as it’s described here is something that has been very beneficial to my submissive journey.

It does take a long time to become who you really are. It takes it’s toll on you, your journey displayed for the world to see. But there’s a lot of truth in the idea that you can’t be “ugly” when you’re real. We all look at people who are living their authentic self with a bit of awe. Some may look at us that way as they see us becoming real.

Being real sometimes makes it harder to fit in, but it still feels good to know that I went for my dreams. I’ve lost friendships along the way but also learned that if people want the watered down, fake version of you, they’re not worth carrying on the journey.

Day 19 is about Decorations and being seen and not heard.

See you then!

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